{"id":2975,"date":"2023-01-18T08:57:21","date_gmt":"2023-01-18T08:57:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mhthrive.com\/?p=2975"},"modified":"2023-01-03T22:07:32","modified_gmt":"2023-01-03T22:07:32","slug":"understanding-the-nature-of-effective-parenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mhthrive.com\/understanding-the-nature-of-effective-parenting\/","title":{"rendered":"Understanding the Nature of Effective Parenting"},"content":{"rendered":"
Raising kids can be extremely rewarding.\u00a0 It can also be frustrating and exhausting.\u00a0 While they can bring indescribable joy to your life, kids can also test your patience and your ability to manage them.\u00a0 Unfortunately, kids aren\u2019t born with a \u201chow to parent me\u201d instruction manual.\u00a0 As a result, parents are often left wondering how to best parent their kids, especially during times of stress or crisis.\u00a0 Fortunately, there are proven strategies that can help make parenting easier and more effective.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n First, it is helpful to understand that a kid\u2019s job is to test the limits.\u00a0 Testing limits is how kids learn about the world around them.\u00a0 For example, a young child may open cabinet doors and begin to pull pots and pans from the cabinets.\u00a0 As they empty the cabinets, they are exploring the boundaries of their environment and learn what happens next.\u00a0 A teenager, on the other hand, may test the limits by staying out past curfew.\u00a0 In both examples, they are testing the limits of their environment and \u201clearning\u201d what the responses will be to their behavior.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Second, it is also helpful to understand that a parent\u2019s job is to set limits.\u00a0 Setting limits is how kids learn to work within the world.\u00a0 If a parent doesn\u2019t set limits, then their kids tend to keep pushing the boundaries until some form of consequence occurs.\u00a0 For example, the child who empties the cabinets may begin to explore the cabinets that hold household cleaners.\u00a0 Obviously, if limits are not set, then the child could inadvertently consume toxic chemicals.\u00a0 The teenager who stays out past curfew, on the other hand, may begin to stay out all night and start using alcohol or drugs.\u00a0 Without limits, both the child and the teenager, thus, may begin to engage in risky behaviors.\u00a0 As a result, by setting limits, parents are helping their kids learn to function appropriately in the world around them.\u00a0 Without limits, kids tend to become more out of control and begin to feel unsafe.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n As a parent, once you accept the basic rules of the game, you no longer have to get upset when your kids test the limits.\u00a0 They are just doing their job.\u00a0 As a parent, you also no longer have to feel guilty when you set the limits because you are just doing your job.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n As parents, we never get to choose which limits our kids test, we only get to choose how we respond to them.\u00a0 As a result, it is helpful to have a basic understanding of how to effectively set limits.\u00a0 Listed below are some basic rules for effective parenting.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n A common mistake that parents make is that they try to \u201csave\u201d their kids from the consequences of their behavior.\u00a0 Instead of giving the consequences, they only threaten to give the consequences.\u00a0 Unfortunately, kids often ignore these threats which leads to increasing frustration for the parents.\u00a0 As the frustration rises, many parents resort to \u201cyelling\u201d at their kids until they comply.\u00a0 Over time many kids begin to ignore the yelling which only leads to more yelling.\u00a0 A much better strategy is to replace the yelling with consequences.\u00a0 If you allow your child to experience the consequences of their behavior, they will learn much more quickly and the mood of the home will be happier.<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Teenagers create unique parenting challenges.\u00a0 As they transition from childhood toward adulthood, they begin to test the boundaries around them in new ways.\u00a0 During this time, teenagers begin to separate from their families and begin the process of defining who they are as a person.\u00a0 Their friendships become increasingly important and they often begin to resist parental guidance.\u00a0 They also frequently seek approval from their peers as they try to be \u201cdifferent\u201d from their parents.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Teenagers want independence, but still want parents to be available.\u00a0 It is almost as though teens want parents to be \u201con call\u201d just in case they need you.\u00a0 Teenagers also want freedom, but still depend on their parents.\u00a0 Many teens begin to feel like they \u201cdon\u2019t need\u201d their parents, yet in the same breath can ask you for money to buy new clothes.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Listed below are some useful strategies that can help you navigate the teenage years.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n MHThrive provides Individual Therapy, Couples and Marriage Counseling, and Family Therapy at our locations in Katy, The Woodlands, and the Clear Lake area of Houston, Texas. We also provide telehealth therapy for anyone who resides within the State of Texas. To schedule an appointment with one of the MHThrive therapists, contact us at\u00a0713-477-0333<\/a>\u00a0or visit\u00a0www.mhthrive.com<\/a>\u00a0to learn more.<\/p>\n If you or someone you know is experiencing any mental health or substance abuse issues,\u00a0New Dimensions<\/a>\u00a0can help. Our team of experienced therapists and psychiatrists can help you overcome these challenges and help you develop the skills you need to thrive. To schedule a complementary assessment or to find out more about our programs, contact us at\u00a01-800-685-9796<\/a>.<\/p>\n Online Treatment Programs<\/a>\u00a0provides Teletherapy Partial Hospitalization and Intensive Outpatient Programs allowing participants to receive intensive therapy with our licensed therapists and psychiatrists without having to leave home. \u00a0If you or someone you know is struggling to overcome depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, trauma, panic attacks, PTSD, alcoholism, drug abuse, or other mental health or addiction issues, we can help. \u00a0To schedule a complementary assessment or to find out more about our teletherapy programs, contact us at\u00a01-800-685-9796<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Raising kids can be extremely rewarding.\u00a0 It can also be frustrating and exhausting.\u00a0 While they can bring indescribable joy to your life, kids can also test your patience and your ability to manage them.\u00a0 Unfortunately, kids aren\u2019t born with a \u201chow to parent me\u201d instruction manual.\u00a0 As a result, parents are often left wondering how […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":674,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[27,19],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nA Kid\u2019s Job is to Test the Limits<\/span><\/h6>\n
A Parent\u2019s Job is to Set\u00a0<\/span>Limits<\/span><\/h6>\n
Steps to Create Effective Rules and Consequences<\/span><\/h6>\n
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Use Consequences Instead of Yelling<\/span><\/h6>\n
A Toolbox for Parents<\/span><\/h6>\n
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Parenting Teenagers<\/span><\/h5>\n
Parenting Strategies for Raising Teenagers\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/h6>\n
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