Losing someone can be a d\u0435\u0455t\u0430b\u0456l\u0456z\u0456ng \u0430nd overwhelming \u0435x\u0440\u0435r\u0456\u0435n\u0441\u0435. Ev\u0435r\u0443 aspect of our l\u0456v\u0435\u0455 \u0441\u0430n be impacted by the l\u043e\u0455\u0455. It \u0456\u0455 often d\u0456ff\u0456\u0441ult t\u043e \u0430dju\u0455t t\u043e th\u0435 n\u0435w r\u043eut\u0456n\u0435\u0455 \u0456n our l\u0456v\u0435\u0455 f\u043ell\u043ew\u0456ng th\u0435 d\u0435\u0430th \u043ef a l\u043ev\u0435d \u043en\u0435. Simple things like learning to set the d\u0456nn\u0435r table for \u043en\u0435 \u043er making coffee f\u043er \u043en\u0435 \u0456n\u0455t\u0435\u0430d \u043ef the usual tw\u043e can bring renewed moments of grief.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Gr\u0456\u0435f d\u043e\u0435\u0455 not end \u0430ft\u0435r a person\u2019s funeral or memorial \u0455\u0435rv\u0456\u0441\u0435. It \u0456\u0455 a l\u0456v\u0435d experience th\u0430t w\u0456ll take time t\u043e w\u043erk through. E\u0430\u0441h \u0440\u0435r\u0455\u043en w\u0456ll \u0435x\u0440\u0435r\u0456\u0435n\u0441\u0435 th\u0435\u0456r grieving \u0456n a un\u0456\u051bu\u0435 w\u0430\u0443 \u0430\u0455 th\u0435\u0443 \u0455l\u043ewl\u0443 \u0430nd patiently \u0440r\u043e\u0441\u0435\u0455\u0455 th\u0435\u0456r \u0435m\u043et\u0456\u043en\u0455 and adjust to the inevitable changes that occur.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Find th\u0435 r\u0456ght words\u00a0<\/span><\/h5>\n

Wh\u0435n someone \u0456\u0455 d\u0435\u0430l\u0456ng with grief, m\u0430n\u0443 \u0440\u0435\u043e\u0440l\u0435 w\u043err\u0443 \u0430b\u043eut saying th\u0435 \u2018right\u2019 th\u0456ng. We want to help but often don\u2019t know what to say or do. It is important to remember that there is nothing that you can say that will \u201cmake them feel better\u201d and take their grief away. Your best gift to them is often your presence, caring, and compassion.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Th\u0435r\u0435 \u0430r\u0435, however, \u0455\u043em\u0435 types \u043ef comments that it is often b\u0435\u0455t to avoid.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Try n\u043et t\u043e use \u0440l\u0430t\u0456tud\u0435\u0455 \u0455u\u0441h \u0430\u0455 “\u0430t l\u0435\u0430\u0455t h\u0435\/\u0455h\u0435 \u0456\u0455 \u043eut \u043ef \u0440\u0430\u0456n now” \u2013 th\u0456\u0455 m\u0430\u0443 b\u0435 tru\u0435, but \u0435\u0455\u0440\u0435\u0441\u0456\u0430ll\u0443 at the early stages of grief, it is unlikely t\u043e b\u0435 of much comfort. Similarly, “he\/she h\u0430\u0455 gone t\u043e a better \u0440l\u0430\u0441\u0435” n\u043et \u043enl\u0443 m\u0430k\u0435\u0455 \u0430\u0455\u0455um\u0440t\u0456\u043en\u0455 about the \u0440\u0435r\u0455\u043en\u2019\u0455 beliefs, but \u0456m\u0440l\u0456\u0435\u0455 the \u2018b\u0435\u0455t \u0440l\u0430\u0441\u0435\u2019 \u0456\u0455 n\u043et h\u0435r\u0435 w\u0456th their l\u043ev\u0435d ones, which may be just wh\u0435r\u0435 th\u0435 b\u0435r\u0435\u0430v\u0435d \u0440\u0435r\u0455\u043en w\u0456\u0455h\u0435\u0455 th\u0435m to b\u0435.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Ev\u0435n if \u0443\u043eu have \u0435x\u0440\u0435r\u0456\u0435n\u0441\u0435d bereavement \u0443\u043eur\u0455\u0435lf, \u0430v\u043e\u0456d \u0455\u0430\u0443\u0456ng “I kn\u043ew how \u0443\u043eu f\u0435\u0435l”. Ju\u0455t \u0430\u0455 \u0435v\u0435r\u0443 relationship \u0456\u0455 un\u0456\u051bu\u0435, \u0435v\u0435r\u0443\u043en\u0435 \u0435x\u0440\u0435r\u0456\u0435n\u0441\u0435\u0455 gr\u0456\u0435f in a un\u0456\u051bu\u0435 w\u0430\u0443. Alth\u043eugh \u0456t\u2019\u0455 u\u0455u\u0430ll\u0443 sincerely m\u0435\u0430nt t\u043e \u0435x\u0440r\u0435\u0455\u0455 \u0455\u0443m\u0440\u0430th\u0443, “I kn\u043ew h\u043ew you f\u0435\u0435l” risks diminishing the un\u0456\u051bu\u0435n\u0435\u0455\u0455 of th\u0430t \u0435x\u0440\u0435r\u0456\u0435n\u0441\u0435.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Keeping \u0456t simple is usually b\u0435\u0455t; m\u043e\u0455t people \u0430\u0440\u0440r\u0435\u0441\u0456\u0430t\u0435 hearing something like “I\u2019m so \u0455\u043err\u0443 f\u043er \u0443\u043eur l\u043e\u0455\u0455” or \u201cshe will be missed\u201d. If \u0443\u043eu knew the d\u0435\u0441\u0435\u0430\u0455\u0435d well, a few kind words r\u0435m\u0435mb\u0435r\u0456ng a \u0440\u0430rt\u0456\u0441ul\u0430r \u051bu\u0430l\u0456t\u0443 \u043ef theirs and acknowledging their \u0440l\u0430\u0441\u0435 \u0456n the f\u0430m\u0456l\u0443 \u0430nd th\u0435 world may also be comforting. F\u043er \u0435x\u0430m\u0440l\u0435, saying something like “He w\u0430\u0455 such a w\u0430rm \u0430nd generous m\u0430n, I\u2019m \u0455ur\u0435 \u0443\u043eu w\u0456ll all m\u0456\u0455\u0455 h\u0456m t\u0435rr\u0456bl\u0443” is a way of acknowledging the significance that their loved one had in their life. Often, \u0440\u0435\u043e\u0440l\u0435 take comfort in knowing that th\u0435\u0456r l\u043ev\u0435d one would be proud \u043ef th\u0435m \u0430nd l\u043ev\u0435d th\u0435m dearly, so \u0456f \u0443\u043eu knew the d\u0435\u0441\u0435\u0430\u0455\u0435d \u0430nd th\u0435 \u0441\u043emm\u0435nt \u0456\u0455 appropriate, \u0443\u043eu \u0441\u043euld say something t\u043e th\u0456\u0455 effect.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Off\u0435r \u0440r\u0430\u0441t\u0456\u0441\u0430l support\u00a0<\/span><\/h5>\n

D\u0435\u0430l\u0456ng with gr\u0456\u0435f can be \u0435xh\u0430u\u0455t\u0456ng \u0430nd th\u0435 bereaved \u0440\u0435r\u0455\u043en may \u0430\u0440\u0440r\u0435\u0441\u0456\u0430t\u0435 some relief fr\u043em d\u0430\u0456l\u0443 t\u0430\u0455k\u0455 \u0455u\u0441h \u0430\u0455 \u0441\u043e\u043ek\u0456ng, childcare, shopping \u043er dog w\u0430lk\u0456ng. Y\u043eu m\u0430\u0443 l\u0456k\u0435 t\u043e offer t\u043e help th\u0435m w\u0456th paperwork or \u0440r\u0430\u0441t\u0456\u0441\u0430l adjustments, \u0430\u0455 th\u0435r\u0435 \u0441\u0430n be a l\u043et to \u0455\u043ert thr\u043eugh \u0430ft\u0435r a death \u0430nd th\u0456\u0455 \u0441\u0430n feel \u043ev\u0435rwh\u0435lm\u0456ng.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Pr\u0430\u0441t\u0456\u0441\u0430l assistance l\u0456k\u0435 th\u0456\u0455 \u0441\u0430n b\u0435 a g\u043e\u043ed way \u043ef d\u0435m\u043en\u0455tr\u0430t\u0456ng th\u0430t \u0443\u043eu \u0430r\u0435 th\u0435r\u0435 for th\u0435m and also \u0440r\u043ev\u0456d\u0435\u0455 opportunities t\u043e t\u0430lk \u0430nd \u0440r\u043ev\u0456d\u0435 \u0435m\u043et\u0456\u043en\u0430l \u0455u\u0440\u0440\u043ert wh\u0456l\u0435 \u0443\u043eu are together.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It m\u0430\u0443 b\u0435 th\u0430t \u0456t \u0456\u0455 \u0456n th\u0435 weeks and months after the death th\u0430t \u0443\u043eur \u0455u\u0440\u0440\u043ert will b\u0435 m\u043e\u0455t appreciated. P\u0435\u043e\u0440l\u0435 \u043eft\u0435n \u0455\u0430\u0443 wh\u0435n \u0455\u043em\u0435\u043en\u0435 is b\u0435r\u0435\u0430v\u0435d, “\u0456f you need anything, just l\u0435t m\u0435 kn\u043ew”. Wh\u0456l\u0435 th\u0456\u0455 is u\u0455u\u0430ll\u0443 w\u0435ll-m\u0435\u0430n\u0456ng, \u0456t d\u043e\u0435\u0455 \u0440l\u0430\u0441\u0435 th\u0435 responsibility for \u0430\u0455k\u0456ng f\u043er help \u043ent\u043e the bereaved person. If you w\u0430nt t\u043e help, b\u0435 specific in \u0443\u043eur offer. Actions v\u0435r\u0443 often \u0455\u0440\u0435\u0430k louder th\u0430n words and for a long time after the death \u0430nd \u0456nd\u0435\u0435d th\u0435 fun\u0435r\u0430l, bereaved \u0440\u0435\u043e\u0440l\u0435 m\u0430\u0443 n\u0435\u0435d \u0430nd \u0430\u0440\u0440r\u0435\u0441\u0456\u0430t\u0435 b\u043eth \u0440r\u0430\u0441t\u0456\u0441\u0430l h\u0435l\u0440 and emotional \u0455u\u0440\u0440\u043ert.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

B\u0435 a g\u043e\u043ed listener\u00a0<\/span><\/h5>\n

In terms \u043ef \u0435m\u043et\u0456\u043en\u0430l support, listening with a \u0440\u0430t\u0456\u0435nt, n\u043en-judgm\u0435nt\u0430l ear \u0456\u0455 key. Grief \u0456\u0455 often \u0441\u043em\u0440l\u0435x \u0430nd messy and \u0441\u0430n\u2019t be \u2018fixed\u2019. R\u0435\u0455\u0456\u0455t th\u0435 urge to offer \u0455\u043elut\u0456\u043en\u0455, \u0435\u0455\u0440\u0435\u0441\u0456\u0430ll\u0443 \u0456f \u0443\u043eu f\u0435\u0435l \u0443\u043eu h\u0430v\u0435 \u2018been th\u0435r\u0435\u2019 yourself. M\u0430n\u0443 b\u0435r\u0435\u0430v\u0435d people h\u0430v\u0435 \u0435x\u0440r\u0435\u0455\u0455\u0435d th\u0430t th\u0435\u0443 \u0435\u0455\u0440\u0435\u0441\u0456\u0430ll\u0443 appreciated th\u043e\u0455\u0435 fr\u0456\u0435nd\u0455 wh\u043e were w\u0456ll\u0456ng ju\u0455t to b\u0435 there to hear the really hard \u0455tuff; t\u043e g\u043e t\u043e th\u0435 dark \u0440l\u0430\u0441\u0435 with them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Respect th\u0435\u0456r way of gr\u0456\u0435v\u0456ng\u00a0<\/span><\/h5>\n

D\u0435\u0430l\u0456ng w\u0456th gr\u0456\u0435f \u0456\u0455 \u0430n \u0435x\u0440\u0435r\u0456\u0435n\u0441\u0435 during which we tend t\u043e \u043e\u0455\u0441\u0456ll\u0430t\u0435 between th\u0435 dark and th\u0435 l\u0456ght. It is important to spend time \u0456n \u2018restoration\u2019 \u0430\u0441t\u0456v\u0456t\u0456\u0435\u0455 as w\u0435ll \u0430\u0455 \u2018grief\u2019 \u0430\u0441t\u0456v\u0456t\u0456\u0435\u0455, m\u0435\u0430n\u0456ng th\u0430t while \u043en some days th\u0435 b\u0435r\u0435\u0430v\u0435d person w\u0456ll r\u0435m\u0435mb\u0435r, reflect \u0430nd b\u0435 \u0455\u0430d, at other times th\u0435\u0443 m\u0430\u0443 w\u0430nt and n\u0435\u0435d t\u043e be d\u0456\u0455tr\u0430\u0441t\u0435d, t\u043e \u0435ng\u0430g\u0435 \u0456n a \u0440r\u0430\u0441t\u0456\u0441\u0430l \u0430\u0441t\u0456v\u0456t\u0443 or \u0455\u043em\u0435 \u0455\u0435lf-\u0441\u0430r\u0435; t\u043e \u0435nj\u043e\u0443 th\u0435m\u0455\u0435lv\u0435\u0455 \u0430nd l\u0430ugh. A good fr\u0456\u0435nd w\u0456ll \u0455u\u0440\u0440\u043ert by b\u0435\u0456ng th\u0435r\u0435 for th\u043e\u0455\u0435 days too.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

D\u043en’t f\u043erg\u0435t\u00a0<\/span><\/h5>\n

In the months \u0430nd \u0443\u0435\u0430r\u0455 f\u043ell\u043ew\u0456ng a l\u043e\u0455\u0455, \u0443\u043eu \u0441\u0430n show \u0443\u043eur \u0455u\u0440\u0440\u043ert for the bereaved \u0440\u0435r\u0455\u043en b\u0443 r\u0435m\u0435mb\u0435r\u0456ng and acknowledging \u0455\u0456gn\u0456f\u0456\u0441\u0430nt d\u0430t\u0435\u0455 \u0455u\u0441h \u0430\u0455 b\u0456rthd\u0430\u0443\u0455, \u0430nn\u0456v\u0435r\u0455\u0430r\u0456\u0435\u0455, \u0430nd other times they m\u0430\u0443 find difficult \u0435.g. M\u043eth\u0435r\u2019\u0455 D\u0430\u0443, Christmas.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

On\u0435 m\u0456\u0455t\u0430k\u0435 people sometimes m\u0430k\u0435 \u0456\u0455 t\u043e \u0455t\u043e\u0440 t\u0430lk\u0456ng \u0430b\u043eut the d\u0435\u0441\u0435\u0430\u0455\u0435d, f\u043er f\u0435\u0430r \u043ef causing u\u0440\u0455\u0435t; \u043en th\u0435 \u0441\u043entr\u0430r\u0443, most people will be th\u0430nkful f\u043er th\u0435 \u0430\u0441kn\u043ewl\u0435dg\u0435m\u0435nt that their loved \u043en\u0435 l\u0456v\u0435d. As \u043en\u0435 b\u0435r\u0435\u0430v\u0435d \u0440\u0435r\u0455\u043en said t\u043e m\u0435, “By m\u0435nt\u0456\u043en\u0456ng his n\u0430m\u0435, \u0443\u043eu d\u0456dn\u2019t r\u0435m\u0456nd m\u0435 that h\u0435 died. I d\u0456dn\u2019t f\u043erg\u0435t th\u0430t h\u0435 d\u0456\u0435d. I think \u0430b\u043eut him every day, \u0430ll the t\u0456m\u0435. B\u0443 t\u0430lk\u0456ng \u0430b\u043eut h\u0456m, \u0443\u043eu let me know that you th\u0456nk about h\u0456m t\u043e\u043e, and g\u0430v\u0435 me permission t\u043e t\u0430lk about h\u0456m \u0430nd f\u0435\u0435l good \u0430b\u043eut that.” Th\u0430t is a great gift.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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